one last thing about feminism

One last thing about feminism before we move on, regarding the question of whether it is more fulfilling for a woman to experience motherhood or to pursue her career…
After seeing the movie Marley and Me, I was talking with a friend, and we agreed that it was sad, but for completely different reasons. I thought the most heartbreaking thing was watching the children cry; my friend thought the saddest thing was that the mom had to give up her blossoming career in order to have a family. I remember thinking that was an absurd interpretation, especially because in the movie she specifically says that what she gained out of becoming a mother was worth more than what she'd had to give up. Honestly, I might have momentarily judged my friend as a little “cold” and she may have momentarily judged me as a little “dumb” after this discussion.
I usually try not to be a relativist, but in cases like this, it’s difficult to say anything but, “People are different. Different things make us happy.” This is of course right in line with the idea of having feminisms instead of one theory of feminism, and Kristeva’s Women's time. Women don’t all have to strive to be “the woman” or even to try to define what “the woman” is—maybe she isn't , but they (shes) are. Still, each woman has to choose for herself what true womanhood manifests itself as.